Sunday, November 15, 2009

A Nikeface Confession: Head is Necessary.


There are many things necessary for a relationship to fundamentally work. Along with all that lovey, dovey stuff, there is a physical attraction that must exist for any relationship to be healthy and function properly. I have learned over the years that head is necessary for a relationship to work. Not saying that if you give your partner oral sex then she/he will never leave you, I'm just saying that if everything else is going great in your relationship and you don't give head &your partner finds someone who will, [they don't even have to be good at it] she/he will cheat on you.

I know those of you that may love your mate but for some odd reason aren't incorporating oral sex into your sexual repertoire should be taking heed to my direction. I am not claiming to be the love doctor and once again, I am not saying that head will save your relationship but I am saying that it always makes your mate feel better. A lot of fellas complain about how bad the oral sex from their girlfriends, wives, friend with benefits, etc. is, but since most females don't know how to make THEMSELVES orgasm they dont know that they have the liberty to complain and bash his horrid abilities to perform the notorious act of cunniligus. I'll tell you a secret and I only know this because I came in contact with a man that literally made my toes curl & I had to figure out what in the SAM HELL he was doing to me. So, I watched him! Though, sometimes my vision would get blurred and I'd be screaming so loud that concentrating on his technique was almost impossible; I figured out exactly what he was doing and by golly it was simple! Know your anatomy, fellas! The clitoris is sensitive and becomes even more so, once you make it "hard." So find it &get to work! Don't be alarmed, if she grabs your head &completely smothers you against her vagina &is no longer making those squeaky-"I'm trying to sound like a pornstar"-noises because she was probably faking anyway. Keep going even if her pelvis is vibrating violently and she won't keep still. That means you're doing it right. If you don't know what I'm talking about...you better get to practicing. Tell her Ms. "Luxurious &Oh So Lavish" sent ya!

Ladies, giving a man head is NOT rocket science. Men are such primal creatures that you don't have to do much to get them in the mood. Some men don't require it of their long-time mates to perform oral sex and those are the most unhappy. A happy man is a well-sucked off man &don't we just love happy men? There are just a couple of basics that can get you on your way to a happier, healthier relationship. Firstly, no teeth [until you get talented enough to use them properly. yes, felattio is a talent! not everyone can do it. some people are naturals and others will always have a mediocre performance.] There's an area on the backside of the penis, where the head and shaft meet that is uber sensitive...make that your point of reference and try to touch it as often as possible. NO DEEP-THROATING, unless you know what you're doing. *TIP* Take a deep breath through your nose and take his penis a little further than usual. The deep breath lowers your soft palette and allows "deep-throating." This takes practice, preferably when you're not drunk or have just eaten! But if you're not trying to throw up on his man muscle but want to have the same effect, let his penis hit the inside of your cheek. This sensation makes him think he's hit the abyss &you get to keep your lunch down, just make sure...NO TEETH. haha! They hate that. Also, if you're not down with that whole swallowing thing, don't let him ejaculate in your mouth. If you feel some type of way about having semen & his kids all in your oral cavity, do a quick "let me know when..." &if he doesn't &nuts in your mouth anyway...you have the right to reserve sexual contact indefinitely. Lastly, practice PRACTICE practice!

One thing I think that is just as important as GIVING head is that the recipient HAS TO MAKE THE GIVER feel SEXY while doing it. Don't say anything like "yeah, bitch suck my fucking dick!" or "Nigga, you better eat this pussy or i'mma call your momma!" You have to make your mate feel like that you appreciate their effort. If they aren't doing it right and it doesn't feel like it should, guide them...sexually. Teach them what you like. Communication is key in a good relationship and works wonders during sex.

pce.
nkefce

No Offense to You..

BUT I am not a lesbian. I am not bi-sexual. &never have I ever be bi-curious or wanted to delve into a day in the life of a homosexual individual. No shade to any homosexual individual that may or may not read this because I am not homophobic. I just want females that approach me to take heed JUST like the males that also make futile attempts to sleep with me, court me or simply get me to look in their direction by staring like they have x-ray vision. NO means NO, people! Recently, I've been had the experience of a female making VERY unsettling advancements to the point where I thought I may be in a BIT of danger. She wasn't "ugly," and my homeboys insisted that I should have seen how far she wanted to take things but I have seen FAR too often that a female "becomes" bi-curious after a man has come in & damaged their emotions, they make it a mission to "turn out" other girls that may seem innocent.


Honestly, I lived in Atlanta for several years and I've seen some women literally go from male to female in one night. No shade, once again ...do you. Do whatever your adult brain and thought process persuades you to do. But if you're going to pursue the same sex, PLEASE RESPECT MY SPACE! Goodness. Seriously, if a female is just as overbaring and inconsiderate as a man, in her attempts to "get at me," I will respond just the same. I DO appreciate a pretty ...scratch that a BEAUTIFUL woman. Everyone knows about my "thing" with Rihanna; those LONG legs and Bajan accent. Her lack of talent surprisingly doesn't turn me off, but I appreciate her sexiness all the same. I just say all of this to say... If you ask me out &I say NO outright and firmly, PLEASE TURN AROUND AND GO THE OTHER WAY.

pce.
nkefce.

Sunday, November 8, 2009

A Nikeface Confession: Just Feel It.


As I've grown older, I've noticed that sometimes guarding your feelings are essential to protecting yourself from a broken heart, disappointment and pain but I've also learned that it is imperative to differentiate between those that deserve your sincerity and those that do not. It may seem almost impossible to move on from someone whom you loved and consider opening up yourself to someone else. I believe the people that hurt us are the most important people in finding true happiness. Out of the characteristics, personality traits and physical appearances, it's damn complicated to conjure up the perfect mate; to create an ideal person that incorporates all your earthly desires and needs. Not only does it take an infinite amount of time to list our wants in a mate, primarily because our wants change frequently and sometimes contradict themselves, it is humanly impossible for a someone to be infallible and possess every such characteristic that we've compiled in our mile long list.

The relationships we go through in life, the ones that crash and burn, the ones that explode in violence, anger and ultimately depression are the most valuable ones in our future relationships. To know what you want is good, but to know exactly what you don't want is invaluable. I think it is a blessing to be able to come out of a failed relationship with knowledge of what your limits are and what you will not tolerate ever again. Some individuals don't mind infidelity [me being one of them because I believe that if any opportunity arises for a man to cheat and potentially not get caught, he will act now and think about it later] but care more about the compassion and affection from their mate. If you know that you do not want a mate that resembles anything of the past mishaps you experienced, then you're more than half-way down the right path to a successful relationship.

The next steps deal with personal feelings. Sometimes it is best to just let yourself feel whatever it is you feel about your partner. I find it stressful and tense when you try to fight feelings of love or hate. It's like they say, it takes more muscles to frown than it is to smile. So if someone makes you happy, let them make you happy. If you guard your heart from every individual that tries to enter your life, you will definitely miss out on some amazing individuals. I've used this philosophy in making and keeping my friends. I, now, know what I value in a friendship and it's a bit deeper than smoking, drinking, partying and trivial banter about "personal" issues. I, now, know what I value in a relationship with a significant other. Someone with compassion, honesty and good work ethic. I'm old-fashioned at heart. I appreciate a man that does manual labor, but doesn't mind cooking. I like a man that is independent and responsible. Sadly, before now, I had no idea what I truly wanted in a mate until I had the most unproductive and meaningless relationship with a person whose personality did not compliment mine and whose outlook on life was nothing more than how to satisfy his personal desires, and that is absolutely fine. It's just not fine with me. A man like that can never be able to show love to another person because vulnerability would be shown and he has no confidence that the one who loves him would actually catch him when he falls.

That relationship has helped me realize what I don't want in a partner and enabled me to recognize a real man when I finally came in contact with one. My rotten past relationships were blessings in disguise because my heart became stronger from working so hard to love people that did not love me back. And now, with this big, strong heart I am able to love my son, my family and open up to someone who has potentially swept me off my feet without even knowing. My past relationships have keened my sense of judgement and honesty. I am more straightforward with what I want from him and I feel that he is sincere in every sense of the word. We fit together and it's amazing. I've also learned that in due time, love will come again and I am in no rush ---but, if that's what I feel...

I'm going to just feel it.

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Congrats to Nike & Doernbecher Children's Hospital...

I'm kinda late on this one BUT "...better late than never," is what everyone always says. Congrats to Nike entering their 6th year of collaborations with Doernbecher Children's Hospital. Six patients designed six "one-of-a-kind" Nikes that were featured in an unveiling back in September and were auctioned, in which all proceeds went to the hospital.




(images from SneakerNews.com)
Air Jordan VI. AF1. P-Rod III.
Air Max Zenyth. Dunk High. Shox NZ.

they should be in selected outlets sometime this month. Maybe Charleston will get LUCKY.

pce.
nkefce.

NikefaceTV Ep.1: A Nikeface Confession



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nkefce.

Monday, November 2, 2009

Rihanna get REAL!






Firstly, you guys KNOW I absolutely ADORE Rihanna. Like I totally would DO HER, today if she would let me. I was completely shocked and apalled when I first heard about the domestic violence incident that happened in February. I always thought that Chris Brown, Rihanna and I would make the happiest marriage EVER. I guess not now, since I'd have to whoop Chris ass for whoopin' Ri-Ri's ass...*sigh* I digress. I think they way they both handled it was great, she kept quiet while he did MAJOR MAJOR damage control with endorsements and radio stations not playing his song. I think she did the right thing but NOT speaking and letting him attempt to repair his career b/c he IS young and DUMB and definitely had a bright little future ahead of him. She came back with a response everytime he posted something then shit, it wouldn't have made a difference how many roadsides he walked or hours he volunteered with the little disabled babies in Virginia [ or whatev tha fuck he's doing..shit.] it wouldn't have mattered if she kept responding b/c all eyes would be on her & i dont think tha situation would have been diffused as quickly as it did, if she opened her sexy ass mouth. *whew*

BUT ...NOW, about 9 months after the incident, she's releasing her album on Nov. 23rd and coincidentally her ass in breaking her silence about the whole "Chris Beat My Ass" thing. She's going to be on Good Morning America on Thursday @ 7am & 20/20 on Friday Night @ 9pm. [OF COURSE, I'M GOING TO WATCH!] BUT...hmm, alterior motive/promo opt, much ass nigga? ---I mean, yeah, if she waited any later to talk about it tha year would be over and it would DEFINITELY be old news. But, to use it to promote her album. C'mon. I'm going to tell you EXACTLY who's going to buy...1)those old ass people she's performing for on that random cruise. 2) those little boppers in sororities that still think cutting off your hair on ONE side is cute. NOW, I'll tell you EXACTLY who will NOT buy that piece of crap ...1)anyone who hates autotune &voice effects 2)people who enjoy good music 3) people who pirate music &wouldn't waste a dime on someone they aren't a fan of. ---haha.

I'm just saying. Drama does equal free PROMO. but not enough for folks to buy your album. Get Real, boo!