“Can I get A Window Seat?”

For those of you who haven’t seen the video yet, shame on you! But this is what I’m here for! Firstly, I appreciate the evolution of Erykah Badu as an artist and an advocate for the empowerment of black women all over the globe. This video was a visual approach to the assassination of individuality by the concept of “Group Think,” which brings me to the topic of conversation today. On twitter, Erkyah asked what people thought of when they hear the word “Group Think;” this is my opinion.

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Group think is present-day propaganda in most instances. Many of us fall victim to what we hear on the news, radio and read in the newspaper. I know we’ve all learned in our History classes about how countries used these mediums to instill a sense of “unification” and “patriotism” during times of desperation and war but it is considered “brainwashing” when the information is bias, and most of the time just complete untruths. Group think represents the mind-control that the “Powerful “(the group) has over the “powerless” (the individual). In this day in age, Majority rules, but little do we know that the majority of our country is minorities! We’re doing this to ourselves. Think about it. They (as in We) keep us (ourselves) separated and under-educated so that we believe whatever is show to us on television and lose our ability to analyze situations for ourselves. In the movie District 9, a reporter was contaminated by an alien fluid which caused a transformation from human to alien. He was captured and probed for testing. He escaped from the testing facility. In order to catch him, the government broadcasted via TV News that he was contaminated after having sex with an alien and he was very contagious. The people of the city, being so brainwashed by Group Think, believed what was being told to them. He was forced to retreat to District 9, like a bull pen, he was contained and would be easy to identify and capture much like a political prisoner.





Erkyah states at the end of the video that people want to assassinate what they do not know or understand. There is such a thirst for being different that it, too, has become trendy. We all fall victim every once in a while, but the most important thing to take away from this video is that we must be knowledgeable. We must read and converse with one another. We must question things that don’t add up, we must express ourselves accordingly and let our individuality guide us in the right direction. Don’t be afraid to be criticized; they travel in packs. Though there are strength in numbers, there’s even more strength in truth. Be true to yourself! It only takes one person to initiate change. If you continue to learn and evolve, change is inevitable. Even if it’s just within yourself, you’ve already the defeated “Group Think” by just being… YOU!

nkefce

PS ---“A single person within a circumstance can move one to change…” - Erykah Badu

H1gher Learning X HolaOla Presents: BYOT

Tonight was AWESOME! With my recent loner attitude, it’s been hard for me to find a crowd in which I feel as though I fit in and I could have a conversation involving a little more than weed, alcohol and big booty girls. But tonight, I attended the BYOT (Bring Your Own Tee) Event at Tin Roof in West Ashley, a great dive bar. It was the perfect atmosphere for this event; with free admission, a rockin’ DJ and screen printing on pretty much whatever you like from leggings to plain white tees to Ralph Lauren Polo crew neck sweatshirts! I had an amazing time! Thanks to my brother from another KJ, creator of The Brown Derby Haberdashery, I was able to meet Ayoka, style editor for Charleston Magazine and Khalil, Owner/Manager of Suite Life Marketing & Management Agency, along with so many other amazing folks making their dreams come true in Charleston.




It was rather inspiring to me to get back to my fashion/model dreams. The excitement in everyone’s voice in accord with the mellow mood of the night made me feel great! It was definitely a change of pace for me. Lately, I’ve been surrounded by narrow minds and it was refreshing to be around dreamers, doers and achievers. With that said, look out for me on Ayoka’s Style Blog on the Charleston Magazine site. You may just see more of me in the Charleston Fashion Scene. Do I smell Charleston Fashion Week 2011? Ha! …I might be.


nkefce

PS ---my HOROSCOPE for today:
Go back to the beginning if you want inspiration to keep going. Reflect deeply.

“…Never Throw A Stone and Hide Your Hand.”

So a friend told me that his mother always told him, “never throw a stone and hide your hand.” ---Basically, take responsibility for your actions and stand behind what you say and do. This struck a nerve with me because just recently, I was in a situation where I felt like certain people where volleying the line of friend and foe. I use the term “foe” lightly, because, it’s not so much and enemy …more like a person I just don’t want to be around. I personally feel like if you’re going to do something or say something then you should OWN up to it. And take whatever consequences that derive from your actions. I’m so not a follower so I can’t quite grasp how people flipflop opinions on the same situation to appease the group of individuals they are around at the time.
Like for instance, if everyone in Group A doesn’t want to be around Group B, Freddy Follower goes along with Group A until he’s around Group B and vice versa. I can’t be around ANYONE like that. I’m so confrontational that I will call them out on their bullshit, first name, last name and all. I’m my own person, I’m practically a loner because I only fraternize with a VERY small group of individuals and it’s not even on a regular basis. If I badmouth someone, it’s based on a truth that I have inferred from the interactions that I’ve had with said individual. I mean, of course, it’s my own personal opinion and it just may be judgemental, bias or skewed but honestly, I don’t care. I mean whatever I say when I say it. My opinion may change after conversation but at that moment in time I meant it. Some people, on the other hand, have the tendency to speak or do things that they are too embarrassed, ashamed or scared to own up to. “Never throw a stone and hide your hand.” If that’s the case, then you should have never said anything. No one forces people to speak negatively about others yet, it happens all the time and when they are approached about it, they DENY. DENY. DENY! ---I guess I’ll never understand and maybe that’s a good thing. Once I lose respect for someone for “hiding their hands” after they “throw a stone,” it’s practically impossible for me to ever think of you as more than a follower and I don’t need that in my space. I’ve had followers in the past and it’s quite annoying.
Just a word of advice: If you’re going to hide your hand, just make sure the people that saw you throw that stone are properly compensated because well, …you get the picture.

nkefce

PS ---my horoscope for today:

Your ability to see through people is strong now and while you may not want to call every last person in the world on their lies or self-deception, it does help you navigate the complex social territory.

...what's that thing called that slithers around on it's belly and can move relatively undetected until it's ready to unlock it's jaws and devour its prey...? Umm. RIGHT. a SNAKE. if you think about it there are so many people in life that progress with this attitude. like snakes in tha grass, they slither around until they find someone they want to attack and they do so. these types of people need to be shoot, gutted and put on public display. i'm not saying that with everyone you meet you must befriend them, but at least show some type of respect.

i hate people with this slick shit attitude. i try to keep myself far away from people that exude any snake-like characteristics because i have an awfully bad temper and i'm prone to fuck somebody's life ALL tha way up. ---as we get older, we learn to pin point liars, cheaters and snakes better than when we were young and naive. but there's always going to be someone that slips beneath your radar and ends up snapping at you. And sadly, that's life. I just know that if i EVER catch a snake in my grass, i'm KILLING it.

word.

nkefce

.First Day of Spring.

yeah. so i haven't updated in about 6months. no particular reason why... life just got a bit overwhelming and i had to get "back right." ---not saying that i couldn't hve blogged while handling my issues, i just prefered not to. but anywho. i'm back...

HAPPY FIRST DAY OF SPRING!!

A Nikeface Confession: Head is Necessary.

There are many things necessary for a relationship to fundamentally work. Along with all that lovey, dovey stuff, there is a physical attraction that must exist for any relationship to be healthy and function properly. I have learned over the years that head is necessary for a relationship to work. Not saying that if you give your partner oral sex then she/he will never leave you, I'm just saying that if everything else is going great in your relationship and you don't give head &your partner finds someone who will, [they don't even have to be good at it] she/he will cheat on you.

I know those of you that may love your mate but for some odd reason aren't incorporating oral sex into your sexual repertoire should be taking heed to my direction. I am not claiming to be the love doctor and once again, I am not saying that head will save your relationship but I am saying that it always makes your mate feel better. A lot of fellas complain about how bad the oral sex from their girlfriends, wives, friend with benefits, etc. is, but since most females don't know how to make THEMSELVES orgasm they dont know that they have the liberty to complain and bash his horrid abilities to perform the notorious act of cunniligus. I'll tell you a secret and I only know this because I came in contact with a man that literally made my toes curl & I had to figure out what in the SAM HELL he was doing to me. So, I watched him! Though, sometimes my vision would get blurred and I'd be screaming so loud that concentrating on his technique was almost impossible; I figured out exactly what he was doing and by golly it was simple! Know your anatomy, fellas! The clitoris is sensitive and becomes even more so, once you make it "hard." So find it &get to work! Don't be alarmed, if she grabs your head &completely smothers you against her vagina &is no longer making those squeaky-"I'm trying to sound like a pornstar"-noises because she was probably faking anyway. Keep going even if her pelvis is vibrating violently and she won't keep still. That means you're doing it right. If you don't know what I'm talking about...you better get to practicing. Tell her Ms. "Luxurious &Oh So Lavish" sent ya!

Ladies, giving a man head is NOT rocket science. Men are such primal creatures that you don't have to do much to get them in the mood. Some men don't require it of their long-time mates to perform oral sex and those are the most unhappy. A happy man is a well-sucked off man &don't we just love happy men? There are just a couple of basics that can get you on your way to a happier, healthier relationship. Firstly, no teeth [until you get talented enough to use them properly. yes, felattio is a talent! not everyone can do it. some people are naturals and others will always have a mediocre performance.] There's an area on the backside of the penis, where the head and shaft meet that is uber sensitive...make that your point of reference and try to touch it as often as possible. NO DEEP-THROATING, unless you know what you're doing. *TIP* Take a deep breath through your nose and take his penis a little further than usual. The deep breath lowers your soft palette and allows "deep-throating." This takes practice, preferably when you're not drunk or have just eaten! But if you're not trying to throw up on his man muscle but want to have the same effect, let his penis hit the inside of your cheek. This sensation makes him think he's hit the abyss &you get to keep your lunch down, just make sure...NO TEETH. haha! They hate that. Also, if you're not down with that whole swallowing thing, don't let him ejaculate in your mouth. If you feel some type of way about having semen & his kids all in your oral cavity, do a quick "let me know when..." &if he doesn't &nuts in your mouth anyway...you have the right to reserve sexual contact indefinitely. Lastly, practice PRACTICE practice!

One thing I think that is just as important as GIVING head is that the recipient HAS TO MAKE THE GIVER feel SEXY while doing it. Don't say anything like "yeah, bitch suck my fucking dick!" or "Nigga, you better eat this pussy or i'mma call your momma!" You have to make your mate feel like that you appreciate their effort. If they aren't doing it right and it doesn't feel like it should, guide them...sexually. Teach them what you like. Communication is key in a good relationship and works wonders during sex.

pce.
nkefce

No Offense to You..

BUT I am not a lesbian. I am not bi-sexual. &never have I ever be bi-curious or wanted to delve into a day in the life of a homosexual individual. No shade to any homosexual individual that may or may not read this because I am not homophobic. I just want females that approach me to take heed JUST like the males that also make futile attempts to sleep with me, court me or simply get me to look in their direction by staring like they have x-ray vision. NO means NO, people! Recently, I've been had the experience of a female making VERY unsettling advancements to the point where I thought I may be in a BIT of danger. She wasn't "ugly," and my homeboys insisted that I should have seen how far she wanted to take things but I have seen FAR too often that a female "becomes" bi-curious after a man has come in & damaged their emotions, they make it a mission to "turn out" other girls that may seem innocent.


Honestly, I lived in Atlanta for several years and I've seen some women literally go from male to female in one night. No shade, once again ...do you. Do whatever your adult brain and thought process persuades you to do. But if you're going to pursue the same sex, PLEASE RESPECT MY SPACE! Goodness. Seriously, if a female is just as overbaring and inconsiderate as a man, in her attempts to "get at me," I will respond just the same. I DO appreciate a pretty ...scratch that a BEAUTIFUL woman. Everyone knows about my "thing" with Rihanna; those LONG legs and Bajan accent. Her lack of talent surprisingly doesn't turn me off, but I appreciate her sexiness all the same. I just say all of this to say... If you ask me out &I say NO outright and firmly, PLEASE TURN AROUND AND GO THE OTHER WAY.

pce.
nkefce.